Step-by-step instructions for using Spouse Space
Step 1: Signup for a subscription
Your subscription will be activated within 24 hours of signing up. Spouse Space is run on the Kannetic group performance platform. Once your subscription is activated, you will receive an email that will provide you a temporary password to login to Kannetic. Your username is your email address. You will also receive a second email welcoming you to your Spouse Space subscription.
You can change your password at any time while logged into Kannetic by clicking your name in the upper right of the screen, then select Account, enter a new password and click Submit Changes. If you do not see your password email or forget your password, you can also reset your password by clicking here, then click "Forgot password?" and following instructions.
Step 2: Take your Spouse Space Assessment together
Instruction Video: Taking Your Assessment
Once you are ready to begin using Spouse Space with your partner, you can both sit down together, login to your subscription and take your Marriage Assessment together.
The assessment should be the first thing you see when you login to your subscription. If you do not see the Spouse Space Assessment, click the “Prioritize” arrow in the top ribbon.
The assessment asks you to evaluate together how you feel you are doing against 15 Marriage Success Factors which research has shown contribute to a healthy, happy and strong marriage. As you take the assessment, discuss together how each of you feels about each dimension in the poll and answer the questions as best you can together. Fill out at least one answer for each of the three questions in the poll, then click submit at the bottom the screen.
Step 3: Decide together on 1 or 2 Marriage Success Factors you most want to focus on improving together at this time
Instruction Video: Selecting Marriage Success Factors to Focus on Improving
When you have completed your assessment, you will now see your results. Next you discuss together and select 1 or 2 Marriage Success Factors you want to focus on improving. As you discuss each area, you can take notes about how each of you is feeling by clicking on the discuss icon next to each Marriage Success Factor.
Try to limit yourself to only two areas you want to focus on improving together - and if possible only one. You will be able to work on other areas once you have made progress with these.
Enter your selection into your subscription by selecting the checkboxes next to the Marriage Success Factors you want to improve, and then clicking "Submit improvement opportunities" at the bottom of the screen.
Step 4: Review a starting list of potential actions you can take to work on each Marriage Success Factor you prioritized for improvement. Watch advice videos about actions.
Instruction Video: Reviewing Potential Improvement Actions
Click on the "Plan" arrow in the upper ribbon of your subscription.
You will now find here a starting list of ideas of potential improvement actions you can take for each of the Marriage Success Factors you prioritized. Read through and discuss these potential actions together.
Any of the actions in blue font also have videos discussing those actions from Spouse Space video contributors. You can click on the action text to view the videos.
If you want, you can like and dislike ideas as you discuss them using the thumbs-up an thumbs-down buttons. Again you can use the discuss icon to take any notes on your conversations or thoughts about each action.
Step 5: If you want, you can add additional ideas for potential actions
Instruction Video: Adding Potential Improvement Actions
Decide if you want to add any other potential improvement action ideas onto your list. If you want to add an action, click "Add an action,” types in the action, and then click “Add action.”
Step 6: Commit to at least one action for each Marriage Success Factor you want to improve
Instruction Video: Committing to Improvement Actions You Will Practice
Decide together on at least one action you want to take together to improve each Marriage Success Factor you prioritized working on. Try to select no more than 2 or 3 actions for each success factor. The goal is to focus on a set of improvement actions you will both really practice doing over the next few weeks - rather than to list all the things you would ideally love to do.
Enter your selected actions into your subscription by selecting the checkboxes next to each action you commit to taking together, and then clicking "Submit selected action plan" at the bottom of the screen.
Be sure to submit the action plan. If you do not, the tracking process will not begin.
Step 7: Celebrate - you just made a plan to improve your marriage!
Step 8: Set some time together to track your progress
Instruction Video: Initiating a Tracker Poll
In 3 months time, you will automatically each receive an email invitation to log back in to your Spouse Space subscription and take a poll to track your progress together.
If you do not want to wait 3 months to track your progress, you can track your progress at any time manually by going to the "Track" screen and clicking "Send Tracker Now."
It is up to you how often you want to check-in - you could choose to track your progress weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly. Whenever you are ready to track your progress, simply login and click "Send Tracker Now."
Step 9: Take your Progress Tracker Poll and discuss results together
Instruction Video: Taking a Progress Tracker Poll
Take your Progress Tracker Poll together. If you don't see the poll, click the Track arrow in the upper ribbon.
Be sure to discuss together and complete every question in the poll. A few pointers:
You must select Yes or No answers for each question about how you are doing on your prioritized Marriage Success Factors
You must select Yes or No as to whether you have tried to take each action included in your action plan
For any action you have tried to take, you must rank how effective you feel that action has been on a 5 star scale (five stars is the highest rating.)
Step 10: When you have finished discussing the Progress Tracker Poll, decide on one of three options:
Option One: Keeping Going!
Decide that you should keep working on the Marriage Success Factors you prioritized and the improvement actions you selected. Wait three months for the next tracker poll, or manually trigger a tracker poll at any time you want to check-in next. Essentially, you are returning to Step 8.
Option Two: Change Action Plan.
Decide you need to change your action plan, because the improvement actions you chose are not working and you do not think they will work. In this case, click on the "Plan" arrow in the upper ribbon and you return to Step 4 above. Go through the steps again to choose a new action plan; and then continue on with the process until you come here to Step 10 again.
Option Three: Declare victory!
If you feel you have progressed and are doing well enough in your chosen improvement areas, celebrate! Now you can keep building on your accomplishment together by returning to some of the other Marriage Success Factors you did not prioritize improving. Click "Start a New Iteration" to restart the Spouse Space improvement cycle. You will return to Step 2 above. You can now walk through the process again selecting a new set of Marriage Success Factors to work on. This allows you to always have a few practical action you are taking together to grow a stronger relationship even as your life circumstances and experiences together evolve.
Instructions Video for Option Three: Starting a New Iteration
To start a New Iteration, the administrator clicks “Start a New Iteration” and then confirms "Start a new iteration." When you "Start a new iteration" you will find a record of your old "iteration,” as well as your new one in your "My Subscriptions" dashboard. You can get to these at any time by clicking the "Kannetic" logo in the upper left hand side of your screen. Each iteration is labelled with the date it was started.
Over time, you will have a record of the effort you made and victories you had in building a stronger marriage together! When you look back at this years later, you will remember everything you did together to get to the fulfilling and happy relationship that you have.